Saturday, October 6, 2012

Five Good Things: 10/2, 10/3, 10/4, 10/5

Taken in Oklahoma

Tuesday, October 2nd

-cloudy afternoons
- dinner and laughing with dad
-catching up on favorite tv shows
-starting new books
-peppermint ice cream


Wednesday, October 3rd

-remembering mom on her birthday
-lunch with dad and mom's friends
-buying craft stuff at hobby lobby
-the delicious chocolate cookies Branden made for dessert
-crazy dogs 

Thursday, October 4th

-dressing cute for work
-throwing a football with some of my students
-catching up with an old friend
-good conversations
-good comments on my last assignment from my instructor

Friday, October 5th

-getting to go into work late
-knowing I got a lot done at work
-cloudy grey skies
-date night with my boy
-the movies

Friday, October 5, 2012

One Friend

This is a long one, but it is a good one. Please read, you won't be disappointed!

I have the best friend in the whole world. Please do not try to argue with me and tell me your best friend is the best friend in the world. MY best friend is the best friend ever. This is my best friend:


She is weird, crazy, loud, odd, beautiful, funny, smart, kind, talented. You get the picture. She is so great.

I have known Erika since my junior year of high school, which would be seven years. We were on drill team together. I didn't know her very well that year, but I do know she voted for me to be captain, so that's all I really needed to know. My senior year, we were both officers, so we spent a lot of time in and out of school together. We did hang out just the two of us a few times, but for some reason, we didn't see the signs and we didn't become best friends then. Although the great idea of putting tacos in some one's yard (please, PLEASE, ask to hear this story in person. It is the best story you will ever hear) and getting the police called on you should be a pretty obvious sign...this wasn't obvious to us.

We kept in touch and hung out every once in a while after we both graduated. However, it wasn't until Erika invited me over to watch the "Final Rose" episode of Jason's season on the Bachelor that our real true friendship began. I came over, watching the finale to a show I hadn't watched all season, and the rest is history.

That's right. The Bachelor is the reason we are one friends. Since then we have pretty much never separated. We go on birthday trips to Vegas together, we take road trips to New Mexico, we go camping, we act like Christmas Crazies on Black Friday, we have great ideas, we make a lot of t-shirts, we watch a lot of Bachelor and all it's forms, and we ALWAYS go as a couple to most parties (we even give gifts as a couple).

Erika is the best friend I have ever had. She is more than a best friend, she is a sister.

This girl is a big part of my life. She is one of the reasons my life is so great. She is sometimes one of the reasons I can keep going.

Erika was the first person I could get a hold of the night my mom died. As soon as I got off the phone with my dad, I tried calling Branden, but he was rushing home from Oklahoma and couldn't get calls. The next person I called was Erika. I will never forget that phone call. It wasn't very long, and the only thing she said to me was "Where are you? I am on my way." Literally less than five minutes later, she was there. She drove me to the hospital, and she stayed with my family until after 2 in the morning. Sometimes I wonder if it was unfair of me to ask her to be there, to see my mom like that. It wasn't an easy thing for anyone, but she was there, no questions asked, no hesitation.With her there those first few hours, I could say the things I needed to say and act the way I need to and know that she would understand. She would just get it. I don't think I could have made it through that night, and the days that followed with out her. She walked in with and sat with the family at my mom's service because that is what she is. Family.

Erika has one of the most beautiful souls and hearts anyone will ever see. She is loud and crazy and will make you laugh until you cry, but she is also warm and bright and genuinely kind. She has spent the last 8 weeks in Bogota, helping people that can do nothing for her in return. The love and care she has for people is incredible. She will be the first person to pick you up when you need her to, she will be the first one to do something to make you happy on a bad day, and she will leave behind everything she knows and loves to spend two months in a country simple to help. If you know her, even if you just know her through a friend, you are lucky.

Can you disagree with me now when I say my best friend is seriously the best? No, you can't.

Now in honor of my one friend coming home in just a few days (FIVE DAYS), here are some of the highlights of our friendship.

The Scarecrow Massacre (also known as our first great idea)  




The First One Friend Day of Fun (also known as the day we celebrate the beginning of Christmas by not sleeping and acting like crazy people)




Christmas Cookie Day (also known as the day that Alyssa and Erika take gingerbread house making too seriously and try to beat everyone when there isn't even a competition)




Valentines Day Sweater Making (yes, we make these every year. yes, we are awesome)



Easter Sweater and Hat Making (also could be considered as an example of the fact that we take things too far)



Photo Booth Fun (also known as a sickness we have. we have contributed well over 100 dollars to photo booths in our friendship. that is A LOT of photo booth picture strips, and probably a lot of judgment from people watching us on the little screen outside the photo booth)



Erika's 21st Birthday (also known as one of the best nights we ever had and the night Alyssa decided it was going to be her 21st birthday as well)



Our First Couple Costume (also known as the beginning of Halloween greatness)



Bachelor and Bachelorette Obsession (again, this can also be an example of how we take things too far)





One Friends (and Momma Woosa) Go to Vegas (also known as...well, I can't say. As we all know, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas)



One Friends Ride a Roller Coaster in Vegas (also known as "One Friends ride the coaster and walk around looking like they just went through a hurricane and no one tells them")



Our First Road Trip (also known as the weekend we proved everyone wrong by making it back from New Mexico with no problems thankyouverymuch)



One Friends Visit the Aliens While on Road Trip (also known as the best three dollars and two hours we ever spend in Roswell, New Mexico)



The Best Photo Booth Picture We've Ever Taken (also known as the time we took sombreros and mustaches into a movie theater and this happened)



Courtney's 21st Birthday Party (also known as the night we all pretended it was our 21st birthday)



The Result of the Party (no further explanation needed)



Erika Ditches Her Family on Thanksgiving so We Could Wear These Shirts (also known as the best thanksgiving ever since we wore these shirts in public and because there are turkeys on our shirts)



One Friend Birthday (also known as the day Alyssa and Erika will always spend together every year in celebration and happiness until we die)



One Friends Send Out a Christmas Card Together (also known as the best idea we have ever had in our entire lives)



One Friends Meet Gavin Degraw (also known as the event that caused Erika to call Alyssa and make her think someone had died because of all the crying and screaming)



One Friends Take Their Best Picture Ever (also known as the night One Friends had too much fun in onesies and blue wigs)



One Friends are Buzz and Woody (also known as the greatest friendship in the movies, so obviously it applies to us. also the night we wore TWO costumes to the same party)



One Friends are Thing Zombies (also known as the night we went to the movies, which is a public place with people, looking like this. and it was the night that "so bad" was born)



One Friend Day of Fun Number Two (also known as the night we used walkie talkies even though we never left each other's side. also known as the night we realized we may be too old to stay up 24 hours in a row)



One Friends Go Camping (also known as the best three days in the woods anyone has ever had. could also be known as "One Friends are Lucky to be Alive")



One Friends Always Look like This (yep. this is the real us. being weird. in a photo booth. again)



Long post, but everyone deserves to know how much they mean to someone.

My best friend means the world to me. Our lives are changing, and soon we won't live down the street from each other anymore. Sometimes this really scares me, especially with how much my life has changed in just the past five months. But looking back on what we have done together, what we have been through together, and how much fun we have together, I know that distance and changing lives will not change our friendship. 

A friendship like this is one that will last until we sit next to each other in the nursing home and cannot even remember that we are friends. Then we will just be new friends every single day, and that sounds awesome.

One Friend, I love you so very much! I can't wait until you come home. I am so excited to make more memories like these with you. We are so great :D


Thursday, October 4, 2012

Things to Be


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Three things that make life a little better. Silliness, kindness, and honesty. 


Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Happy Birthday, Mom


Today would be my mom's 53rd birthday.

Birthdays aren't a huge deal in my family. We don't throw giant parties or celebrate for days on end. The birthday boy or girl gets to pick where they want to eat for dinner, and we eat there. No Matter What. Seriously...we ate at Golden Corral for three years thanks to Clay. There is always cake, home made cards, laughter, and lots of love. Birthdays are cozy, warm, and joyful in our house.

If mom was here, I would have taken the morning off of work and gone to lunch at Olive Garden with her (my treat for once). Our lunches are some of my best memories of our relationship. Our lunch would have consisted of mostly me talking about everything I could think of, and more than likely, Mom would tell me about her current book she was reading and this would take up half the lunch. It would be a good lunch, like they always were :]

Then me, Branden, Mom, Dad, and Clay would eat at 7 Salsas for dinner, and go home and open cards and give gifts. The dogs would of course give her a card. My card would look like a 5 year old drew it. Clay's would be funny, and Dad's would be silly and sweet. We'd have cake or some kind of dessert. We'd sing happy birthday, and it wouldn't sound very good since mom was the only one who could really sing. 

Nothing fancy, but full of love.

Today is a bittersweet day. I would give anything to be celebrating with my mom, rather than just remembering her today. We all miss her so much. This day will be a reminder of what we have lost, but always a day to remind us of how wonderful and amazing this woman was. 

Her life was much too short, but the life she lived was full of so much love, smiles, laughter, family, friends, and joy. 

Happy Birthday, Mom. 




















Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Five Good Things: 9/29, 9/30, 10/1


One of my favorite photos of my mom. 


Saturday, September 29th

-spending a cool morning outside photographing cows in Oklahoma
-dog movies
-having time with Branden's grandparents
-relaxing and feeling peaceful
-grandmommy cooked food

Sunday, September 30th

-more photography
-mexican casserole
-naps in the car
-antique stores
-reading before bed


Monday, October 1st

-early morning goodbyes
-date night
-catching up on tv shows
-doing something good for cancer research
-goodnight phone calls

Monday, October 1, 2012

Light the Night


Cancer is a scary word.

The word Leukemia is even scarier.

While I don't know what it is like to be told that I have cancer, I know exactly what it is like to be told some one you love does. It is terrifying, paralyzing, and completely confusing.

My mom was diagnosed with leukemia on Wednesday, April 25th. She died three days later on Saturday, April 28th. Three short days and our lives were changed.


It is hard to not ask those "what if" questions. What if we had paid more attention? What if she had gone to the doctor sooner? Were there signs we missed? What could we have done differently? Unfortunately, these questions cannot be answered. Even if they could, it wouldn't change what happened to my mom.

However, maybe by doing a little bit of good, a life can be changed before it is too late.

The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society will be holding their "Light the Night Walk" (click for more details about the walk) on Sunday, October 28th, exactly six months after my mom's death. I think there would be no better way to honor her on that day by walking in this walk for her and trying to help make a difference in other's lives.

The walk is called "Light the Night" because each person that raises $100 dollars or more receives an illuminated balloon. White balloons are carried by survivors, red balloons by supporters, and gold ones are carried by those who are walking in memory of someone lost to cancer. This is my favorite part of the walk. Can you imagine the sky lit up with balloons carried by those affected by this awful disease, walking to help change lives? It gives me chills!

All you have to do if you want to walk is register on our team website. Those who raise $100 or more are called a "Champion for Cures" and receive a Light the Night t-shirt, illuminated balloon, and wristband for refreshments.

I will be participating in this walk on the 28th. I've created a team so that anyone who wants to, can join me in honoring my mom.

You have a few options:

1. Register to walk as part of our team! It is free to walk, but only those who raise $100 or more receive the t-shirt, balloon, and wrist band.

2. If you want to raise money, send out our team page and raise some! All you need is ten people to give just ten dollars to get $100 dollars! Once you raise $100 under your name, ask people to donate to another  name so we can all carry that bright gold balloon for my mom.

3. If you can't walk, donate! Even just $5 dollars toward a bigger goal can help make a difference for someone somewhere.

4. If you can't walk, or donate, just send us good thoughts as we walk, and think about those dealing with something so huge and scary.

I hope many of you can join me in this walk to honor my mom. My life, and many others, have changed so much since her death. The best thing I can do is to try to live a life that my mom would be proud of. Without her, I wouldn't even have a life, so I need to go out there and live it!

Here is our team page: http://pages.lightthenight.org/ntx/DallasL12/KimDowlen

No matter what name the money is donated to, it all goes to our team. Then all of that money goes to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society to help with research, support groups, etc.

If you decide to walk, or even if you can't, send out that link to anyone you know and ask them to donate. You can send a link to my blog as well if you want to give a little more background info.

More details about times and where we will meet the day of the walk will follow!

Thank you!

PS: http://www.lightthenight.org/ntx/what/faq/ any questions about the walk can be answered here!


Sunday, September 30, 2012

Weekly Pin Love: Fall Wreaths


I am dying to make a wreath for the fall. Here are some favorites I've seen on pinterest:

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I love the textures and simplicity of this one. 


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This seems easy to make and looks so elegant and pretty!


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What is more fall than this?


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Simple, clean, and lovely.


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I think this one is so original, and I love pumpkins! 


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Leaves are my favorite part of the season, so of course, I love this one. 

I am definitely inspired to get to the craft store and start making a wreath for my front door. Maybe my fall wreath will inspire the weather to actually start feeling like fall!

P.S. Can you believe this is the last day of September? Tomorrow is the start of my favorite month!